What is Relationship Coaching?

The Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) defines Relationship Coaching as “the application of coaching to personal and business relationships”.

I am a positive, results-oriented professional who will help you focus on overcoming the barriers to realising and building meaningful relationships.

I am married to the first girlfriend I met when I came to the UK in 2000. We got married in 2004, have 4 lovely children and a spicy marriage that I did not think was possible. To get here though, we have gone through the thick and thin of relationships. My wife and I have no family in UK, we had no friends and our social circles were not necessarily role models for marriage let alone functional relationships.

Through training, personal development, mentorship and lots of prayer, I can confidently say that there is hope for any one struggling with their relationship.

My coaching strategies are aimed to facilitate success at helping functional people achieve their personal and relationship goals without providing advice or “professional opinions.”

Areas I can help in:

  • Couples Coaching

  • Family Coaching


Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service. To apply for this service, it’s important that you know a few things.

I will consider you to be a healthy individual/ couple, able to make your own decision, and able to achieve relationship goals with effective support, information, and guidance.


Do you need Coaching or Therapy?

To be able to make a well-informed decision, the table below clearly shows the significant and sometimes contrasting differences between therapy and coaching. These differences better highlight the strengths of coaching.

Therapy Coaching
Assumes the client needs healing Assumes the client is whole
Roots in medicine, psychiatry Roots in sports, business, personal growth venues
Works with people to achieve self-understanding and emotional healing Works to move people to a higher level of functioning
Focuses on feelings and past events Focuses on actions and the future
Explores the root of problems Focuses on solving problems
Works to bring the unconscious into consciousness Works with the conscious mind
Works for internal resolution of pain and to let go of old patterns Works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and implement effective choices

Table 1. Adapted from Hayden and Whitworth, 1995. (source: RCI)

NB: Coaching is not meant as a substitute for therapy provided by a licensed clinician trained to treat mental, emotional, and psychological disorders.